Saturday, October 14, 2017

Queen of Domination - My Secret Life





This memoir, part one, reads like fiction, yet it is an authentic, candid look inside an often misrepresented part of life. 

With erotic detail, 
Queen of Domination
 tastefully follows the story of a girl named Charlayne Grenci who was born into a privileged yet troubled and tormented childhood. No one would have suspected that she would become known as Mistress Carla, the Queen of Domination and that her services would be desired by men all over the world.

Queen of Domination spans the first part of Charlayne’s life, as herself and as Mistress Carla, from small-town girl to world-renown expert in bondage to defendant in a high-profile legal battle. The book will attract a broad appeal worldwide because of its genre and timely emergence - given the huge success of Fifty Shades of Grey, which is now a blockbuster Hollywood movie. 

The spirit of Queen of Domination features a woman who found empowerment by standing up to conventional society and exploring normally bizarre and taboo areas of life. 

Queen of Domination: My Secret Life reveals the shocking and graphic details of her risqué sex life and taboo professions, embroiled in sex, kink, corruption, deviance, and debauchery.

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QUEEN OF DOMINATION 
Author Dr. Charlayne Grenci - Great Reviews at Amazon






Sunday, October 8, 2017

TRAUMBERUF PILOT?

Traumberuf Pilot? Piloten Ausbildung, Jobsuche und Berufsalltag
Doris Daily - in deutscher Sprache - Piloten in Europa 




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Diese "Bibel für angehende Piloten” geht nicht nur auf die europäische Piloten-Ausbildung und die Berufsmöglichkeiten ein, sondern will auch die weltweiten Perspektiven aufzeigen.


  • Berufschancen, Einsatzmöglichkeiten für Berufspiloten
  • Ausbildungskosten,
  • Flugtraining Weltweit, 
  • Gehälter, Arbeitsbereiche und Pilotenalltag,
  • DLR Pilotentest-Vorbereitungskurse,
  • ein komplettes Adressenverzeichnis von europäischen Luftfahrt Ausbildungsbetrieben und Luftverkehrsgesellschaften für die PilotenJobsuche.

Traumberuf Pilot? 
ISBN Electronic book
978-1-988664-04-0
ISBN Print book
978-1-988664-03-3

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Das Buch Traumberuf Pilot? gliedert sich in drei Bereiche: 
Im ersten Teil werden die Einsatzmöglichkeiten für Berufspiloten erklärt und der Berufsalltag beschrieben. Vom Nachtfrachtpiloten über den Executive-Flieger bis hin zum Langstreckenpilot berichten Cockpit-Crews über ihren Arbeitsbereich und den Pilotenalltag.

 
Der zweite Abschnitt beschreibt Ausbildungswege in Europa nach den neuesten europäischen Ausbildungsvorschriften, den JAR-FCL’s, aber auch den vielen Ausbildungsmöglichkeiten in Canada, Australien, Süd Afrika und den USA - inklusive der Umschreibemodalitäten beschrieben. 
Es wird ausführlich auch auf die Ausbildung “ab initio” - die durchgehende Ausbildung - oder die Kombination mit einem Studium eingegangen.

Im letzten Teil werden Berufschancen besprochen, DLR Pilotentest-Vorbereitungskurse erklärt, Ausbildungskosten aufgelistet, Gehälter - weltweit - benannt (gemäß den aktuell zur Verfügung stehenden Informationsquellen), Möglichkeiten der Jobsuche aufgezeigt (mit einer umfassenden Adressenliste für Ihre Bewerbung  inclusive der derzeit eingesetzten Fluggeräte von europäischen Airlines und Luftfahrtunternehmen). Zahlreiche Bewerbungs- und Vorstellungstips vervollst
ändigen das Werk.
Im Anhang wird der Luftfahrtjargon entschlüsselt und Abkürzungen werden erklärt, sowie zahlreiche Suchmöglichkeiten für die weitere Online Recherche für den Leser aufgelistet.


Für dieses ausf
ührliche, und alle Aspekte der Berufsfliegerei umfassende Informationswerk waren jahrelange Recherchen und zahllosen Interviews notwendig. Eigene Erfahrungen als Berufspilotin und Fluglehrerin runden die Informationen ab. Vor- und vor allem Nachteile dieser Luftfahrt Berufe werden detailliert beschrieben.

Arbeitsbereiche und der Berufsalltag von Airline- und Helikopterpiloten, Executive-Flieger, Testpiloten und Fluglehrer werden in Erlebnisberichten aus der Luftfahrt dargestellt.
Anforderungen der Flugschulen, Ausbildungswege, Marktchancen, ein komplettes Adressenverzeichnis von europäischen Ausbildungsbetrieben und Luftverkehrsgesellschaften, sowie Tips zur Vorbereitung auf den Einstellungstest bei der DLR und die Stellensuche sollen künftigen PilotInnen bei der Entscheidungsfindung helfen. Ein umfangreicher Index erleichtert die Suche und das Vertiefen einzelner für Piloten interessanter Themen.
Dank der JAR FCL sind die europaweit die Lizenzen weitgehend vereinheitlicht, sodass nicht nur (künftige) Piloten in Deutschland, Österreich und der Schweiz von diesem Buch profitieren, sondern auch deutschsprachige Luftfahrt Enthusiasten aus allen anderen europäischen Ländern.
Um den Lesern einen objektiven Leitfaden an die Hand zu geben, wurden natürlich auch besonders die weniger positiven Seiten des Berufes detailliert aufgezeigt. Diese "Bibel für angehende Piloten” geht nicht nur auf die europäische Piloten-Ausbildung und die Berufsmöglichkeiten ein, sondern will auch die weltweiten Perspektiven aufzeigen.


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Wednesday, September 27, 2017

Work Concentration & Relationships




Author Charlayne Grenci writes:

"Are you an author, composer, artist, attorney or college student? Have you or anyone you know, had to end a relationship because of your career, study course or profession? 

Are you, or were you the partner or spouse of someone who broke up with you because you gave them serious conflicts because of their work? If your answer is 'yes' to any question above, I hope you will keep reading. I mentioned a few examples of work that are pertinent to this subject, but there are many other occupations/work which is directly connected to what I will be talking about.

Privacy for Concentration = Isolation and Seclusion 

There are many careers and professions where an individual's work requires the utmost of concentration or seclusion, either part-time or on a full-time basis. 

The author, artist, composer, attorney and college student come to my mind at the top of the list for the main reason - these positions demand, and I will say this once again, 'demand' extensive, suitable concentration! 

As I see it, it is extremely difficult if not impossible, for a person to create such an atmosphere in which to achieve enough privacy that will guarantee the amount of time needed to sanction extensive concentration.

Isolation or Seclusion

For those of you who have work that does not require intense and extensive amounts of isolation/seclusion, you may struggle to understand the enormity of this issue. I will expound on my personal experience as an author and how it has impinged on a few of my relationships.

I need hours, sometimes days or weeks of isolation to stay in a headset to compose. I can't be subjected to someone's emotional baggage and their constant need to keep in touch with me. I have what is called the highly creative, artistic brain. As an author, I compose. The only way I can be successfully productive is to be left alone and not disturbed. 


I must grapple inside my head with streams of thoughts and ideas. I wear earplugs and lock myself in a room for hours to write. Any interruption, examples: phone rings, dog barks, someone knocks at the door, a loud noise outside can knock me instantaneously off my game. 

I may leave the house to workout at the gym, have dinner with a friend or go shopping, but my head stays in a writing mode. Only a partner with constant emotional needs can interrupt my thought process. In the past, I have gone into lengthy 'writer's block' on several occasions caused by partners who don't give me my required space and separation. I will not permit that again.

Excentric?
Some people think authors (literary composers) and composers (music, legal briefs, etc.) are eccentric and absurd to insist on isolation to produce, but that's the magic formula for most individuals to be able to be productive. You've heard that authors and composers have often detached themselves from society, family or a partner to escape to a remote cabin in the woods, locked away in an attic or taken off for parts unknown to find a remote hotel room where no one knows them. There is an insightful reason for this. 


Bottom line: isolation, and seclusion are mandatory for most authors and composers to create and produce a product.

I for one have found that people do not understand the gravity of this matter. Many people don't respect professions/work that isn't outside the home or with a weekly paycheck. If you're working at home, then you must be available to talk on the phone and be interrupted any time of the day or night. Wrong! Here we go with "relationship destroyers".


If your work requires isolation or seclusion for hours or days, maybe weeks on end, then you must be with someone who supports your needs. If your partner or spouse 'expects', (here we go with expectations) you to answer the phone, text, visit and/or communicate with them every time they decide to call, etc., then you will find yourself in a no-win situation. 


Most people cannot handle, not having your undivided attention. 

Whether their personal issues are based on an imagined jealousy, deep-seeded insecurities or abandonment, you will not be able to deal with that their perpetuation of negative, mind-boggling and manipulative influences. Pressure, anxiety and emotional drama from a partner or spouse will surely disrupt your mindset, temporarily trash your train of thought and eventually destroy your relationship.

As an author, composer, or any other profession that requires indelible concentration, you owe it to yourself and your career to demand the separation and isolation you require when, where and for as long as you require it, to get the job done. If your partner, spouse or even a friend, cannot handle your basic needs for your work, you are with the wrong person and so are they. Do not compromise your work for a relationship of any kind. It is unhealthy and unproductive.


Relationships may come and go, but you 'are' your work and that's permanent. People who are hurt, insulted or angry when you don't answer the phone nor don't text back after you have explained you are going to be extremely busy... that is their personal problem, do not make it yours. Your only responsibility to another person is to explain your situation and inform them of when you will need that privacy. If they persist, walk away. Enjoy your privacy!"


Conclusion:
People must respect you and your work at all times. This is just one perspective, my perspective of why it's difficult to main a successful relationship and how the emotions involving "expectations" can be a relationship destroyer. 


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Tuesday, September 26, 2017

How Vets Take Advantage of Pet Owners





I hate to be taken advantage of by veterinaries. 
It’s been since I had to bring my dog to an “Emergency Clinic” because our vet had decided to go home an hour earlier.  Several dog/cat owners were waiting in this clinic in Ottawa.  We wanted to have our dog seen right away as he had urine bleedings during the whole afternoon.  But to jump the line we would have to spend $400, instead of the much “cheaper” fee of only $250.  As we had no other options - it was already 7pm - we decided to wait.  And so we waited and waited and waited… for almost 2 hrs in this “Emergency”.

Bentley, our dog, had stopped bleeding when we saw the vet finally.  He could not find anything and offered to have the animal in his clinic for 24 - 48 hours at the cost of $1,200.  Just to be sure, he is fine…  No Thanks!

We went the next morning to another vet, where we paid $70 for seeing the dog, and got a prescription for an antibiotic that cost $80.  A research on Google found the same for $36.

Years later, Bentley was not well and I dragged him to another vet, who insisted in having blood tests done.  For the visit and the blood tests - which did not find any negative results - I paid $550.

On top of that, they did not inform me about the result of the tests, until I threatened them with pulling my payment. I  was promised to receive an email the very next day with the results.  I had to send them reminders for several days until I got the blood test results. However, they sent me advertisements for a couple of months, until I reported them for spam.

Yesterday, I had to go to a vet again as Bentley’s face was severely swollen on one side. I suspected a dental infection - which the vet figured out too. He offered me an appointment for the next week.  I cautiously asked him about the cost. His answer was an amount of $600 at least to pull the tooth, make an X-ray before and sedate the dog.

This cost estimate meant FOUR TIMES the amount I had paid just last week to have the same done by my dentist.  I also got two shots, an X-ray and got a tooth pulled - on the same spot my dog has problems now, a grinder tooth.
I thanked the vet and he handed me for the “meantime” a bottle with 42 capsules of Clindamycin, an antibiotic, for a “bargain” price of only $32.  At any other drugstore, I would have paid $25 for 60 capsules.  But I was lucky that the vet raised the price only by a third more than the drugstore…

Clindamycin 150mg Capsules
Product ID: *CLINDA150
Generic Equivalent To Cleocin
Price: $25.20 for 60 capsules

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Sunday, July 2, 2017

Relationship Destroyers, Part 9 - Medicine Cabinets



MEDICINE CABINETS - HOLD 'DIRTY LITTLE SECRETS'




Medicine Cabinets Are 'Relationship Destroyers'!!!

It's a well-known fact that people like to snoop through bathroom medicine cabinets.  In fact, it is said that more than 50% of people who visit your home will really take a peek inside your medicine cabinet.  Many folks have advised that it's a wise move to take a peek into someone's medicine cabinet before you decide to get serious.

           The medicine cabinet tells volumes about a person who may not be sharing that important information with you! You'll see if you know their legal name, the kind of medications with the dates will suggest what health issues, both mental and physical are being medicated. This is such a phenomenon, that websites show slides and videos to give you voyeuristic peeks into a plethora of medicine cabinets. Everything from sex lube, poppers, prophylactics (if size matters to you - lol) denture cream and hemorrhoid suppositories to Prozac, Seconal, Oxycodone, and Viagra! Hell, you might get lucky to discover your prospective date or mate may have forgotten their stash of recreational drugs is in the bathroom, or maybe a sex toy! You might get a hint about their sexual practices, but of course, communication is necessary. There is a bundle of evidence to be discovered 'behind those closed doors'.

           You'll be much more informed from A to Z from the dirty little secrets hidden away in a person's medicine cabinet. The medicine cabinet is your best guide and confidential snitch to who you are befriending or who you have in your sights for a romantic partner. Better to be safe than sorry. When in doubt, check the medicine cabinet! Follow up with questions at another time. Be discreet. Loose lips sink ships.

Remember: "You are the company you keep."

P.S. Radio Stations! Yes, radio stations. Another minor tell-tale about a person is their 'radio station selection'.  Ever think about that? Notice what selection of music is close to the person's heart.  Music can give hints about background, culture, diversity and sometimes age if that's a concern of yours.  Check it out.  It can't hurt.

Yours Truly, Dr. Charlayne Grenci Website: http://www.drgrenciphd.com/

Dr. Charlayne Grenci’s latest book: BEHIND CLOSED DOORS
available as eBook in print
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Dependency - Unrealistic Expectations - Part 8


Relationship Destroyers – Part Eight

Relationship Destroyers – About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships:
PART 8 – DEPENDENCY – UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
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     Expectations, unrealistic expectations are a major relationship destroyer.  No matter how you look at it, no matter which half of the relationship you stand for, expectations are a killer.

This section could be a separate book in and of itself because it’s complex. complicated and sensitive material yet at the same time, if you look at the dynamics of ‘expectations’ through clear, unbiased, objective eyes, it’s not difficult to understand. I will explain it as I see it.

This blog will only deal with one aspect of it, and it’s getting clinical, but we’re all adults here, so you can handle this.

If the truth were told in equitable terms, we all have certain expectations of the person we share a relationship with. We expect this, we expect that – we wait for this, we imagine that and all of these expectations serve to fulfill our needs and desires or to compensate for what we feel we lack and deserve. Some fair, reasonable and appropriate depending on the situations at hand. Effectively or should I say

Some expectations are normal, fair, reasonable and appropriate depending on the situations at hand. Effectively or should I say Consequently, our personal expectations are commonly driven by our boundaries, beliefs, security status and sometimes an overall dependency.  This is where it gets tricky and interesting for some of us or sticky and horrific for others.  You say, what gets tricky and sticky?  Now, I’m going to take this discussion up a notch or two.

    Let’s talk about ‘unrealistic expectations’.
You knew that was coming and I hate to be the messenger of bad news, as they say, but here it is. Put your hip high latex boots on, okay, or rubber goulashes, and let’s begin to wade deeply into the mire of unrealistic expectations and why they are.

Example #1 
Let’s suppose Mary has a 9-5 professional job with a busy accounting firm. She leaves for work at 8:30 AM every morning and gets home around 5:30 PM if there are no errands, or stops to make on her way home. John worked as a computer tech so his job took him out on the road about town. They have been married less than a year with no children, yet. The couple has breakfast together most mornings unless Mary has to prepare something for work, and skips breakfast to get to work on time. After dating for several months, they decided to marry, their professions were in place and each one of them knew what type of schedule and demands came with their professions. John usually called Mary during her lunch hour, or Mary called him. Occasionally John text Mary. All was well at first.

After a few weeks into the marriage, John lost his job and ended up with a career of ‘looking for a job’, so his time was his own. John didn’t have a boss, no time clock, no daily structure, no hobbies, so he had a lot of time on his hands in between submitting applications for jobs over the Internet, or occasionally applying for jobs in person.  John became bored, lonely, frustrated and irritable.  He started calling Mary at work more often and wanted to know what she was doing and who she was with.  He began texting her several times a day and received a reply from Mary only when she was able to respond during her busy workload. When Mary arrived home in the evening, John started interrogating her about her day’s work, or if she was later than expected, why she was late getting home? Question: Do you see something wrong with this scenario? Of course, you do… if you don’t, you should. This is describing a major relationship issue.

We all have heard the saying: ‘Idle hands are the devil’s workshop’.
No truer words have been spoken. John was home alone every day while Mary was at work, but all John had to keep him occupied was the television, his computer, and his cell phone. He started getting more insecure without a job and started imagining Mary cheating on him. He became obsessed with calls and texts to Mary while she was at work. The longer this went on, the more paranoid and insecure he became which made him more suspicious and distrustful of Mary.

John’s psyche change from a proud, secure husband to a husband who was angry and short-tempered. His behavior appeared to shift from jovial, good-natured and fun-loving, to nasty, unreasonable… to irrational.  In short of time, John started calling Mary at work in the late afternoon to bitch and complain that he hadn’t heard from her. He was enraged, disrespectful and offensive on the phone, telling her she didn’t love him, respect him or care about his feelings because she didn’t call him, answer all his calls or reply to his barrage of texts. His continued and escalating, bad behavior upset Mary tremendously and it immediately started affecting her work. She loved him, but their relationship had become unhealthy and detrimental to her profession and job status.

Mary explained to John and tried to reason with him on several occasions that he was the one being disrespectful and insensitive to her, her job and it was fragmenting their relationship, but he insisted it was her fault and her responsibility to respect his feelings if she loved him.

This relationship was in a stalemate, a deadlock. John has probably been co-dependent most of his life, but since this couple was married after a brief dating period, the extent of his dependency wasn’t noticed by Mary immediately, especially because he held a job in the beginning.

Question:
Why did this happen? Who was right? What was the reason for John’s unrealistic expectations of Mary? This is only one example of where I see unrealistic expectations: John’s behavior was displaying an ‘unhealthy dependency’ in his relationship with Mary. He needed to have constant and close communication with her. For readers who are interested in a detailed definition, read below at Wikipedia.

This is just one perspective, my perspective of why it’s difficult to main a successful relationship and how the emotions involving “dependency” can be relationship destroyer. I welcome your opinions.  (to be continued in Part 9)

Wikipedia: Understanding Dependency (I edited it for this blog article)

"It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with co-dependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive."

Emotional dependency is when a woman allows others (like a significant other) to affect her feelings and emotions, and depends on them for happiness, etc. This is giving complete control to others over a woman’s own emotions. This is unhealthy and can negatively impact self-esteem since self-esteem is dependent on others. This is different from having a balanced relationship, where two people have interdependence and allow other to affect them only slightly emotionally. According to one relationship site, it is impossible to love others and not give them some control, but there needs to be a balance.
Mental Health America, a nonprofit association, defines co-dependency as “an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship.”

Co-dependency as a broad definition is “dependence on the needs of or control by another,” according to Merriam-Webster. However, in the psychological sense, it is “a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition.”

Emotional dependency can also be found in people with dependent personality disorder, “a long-term (chronic) condition in which people depend too much on others to meet their emotional and physical needs,” according to Medline Plus, a service of the National Institutes of Health.

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The DAY the ONION CRIED

Relationship Destroyers – About Intimate and/or Sexual Relationships:
PART 7 – The DAY the ONION CRIED: 16 DYNAMICS of SUFFERING



We think about sex, infidelity, money, and lots of other things when we talk about relationship destroyers.  We also put the blame on mental cruelty and other abusive relationships.  Have we ever gone deep down into the mire of mixed emotions?

This Blog will be to the point about the major human condition that is likely to rule our personal world and predispose us for an imbalance in life.  I’m referring to suffering. Some of you might be thinking “enough said”, Dr. Grenci, ’cause I know all about suffering.  And I’ll agree with you, that you do.  We all do.  If you haven’t, I’m going to think you do not belong to our species, so where are you from?

I’m prepared to open a huge can of emotional worms here today. This discussion is not about being negative or trying to upset anyone.  This discussion is purely for the purpose of facing reality…. yes, the mute point underneath and on top of all this is – reality.  I don’t expect everyone to agree with me, or even read this article, but if you are interested in hearing about every fact and facet, every layer, depth, detail, and dimension of relationship destroyers, then you might want to relate to this.  We’re going to dig deeply and thoroughly into the emotion of suffering, so hold onto your hat, here we go.

Most couples go blindly into relationships bound by the new romance/limerence.  Limerence, (for those who aren’t familiar with the term) according to Wikipedia’s definition is: “Limerence (also infatuated love) is a state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person and typically includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies and a desire to form or maintain a relationship with the object of love and have one’s feelings reciprocated.”

Entering into relationships is new and exciting for most people, but I feel everyone should know about all the factors that can lead a relationship into disaster after the newness wears off.  So today, I’m going to elaborate on the dynamics and reality of human suffering.  Everyone has experienced it in one or many ways.

Suffering is all about emotional pain, and below is a list of the emotional pains we endure during a relationship (or not), some of them singly and others collectively:
Anxiety, depression, jealousy, envy, humiliation/embarrassment, fear, anticipation, worry, sorrow, grief, loss, anger, abuse, rejection, loneliness, hatred, self-loathing, also, all emotions involved with physical pain.
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You may have guessed by now where this is going.  If not, I will explain. Romantic or love relationships are extremely difficult, hell, ALL relationships are a pain in the ass at times, because we’re all human.  We are humans with raw emotions to deal with, with each other and that’s difficult enough in and of itself, but that’s not the heaviest burden of it.

As I see it, our lives and relationships embrace a balancing act, trying to stay balanced on a tightrope of sorts.  We have the constant chore and conflict in which to balance out our emotions to stay sane, level headed, positive and inspired in order to be mentally healthy and productive – for starters.  Let’s dig a little deeper.  Keeping this balance isn’t easy by any means of reality.  This is where humans can lose sight of what’s happening, get caught up in a fragmentation before they realize it, or lose their way completely.

For example, let’s pretend our personal psyche is like an onion.  Let’s imagine our emotions are the multi-layers of skin on an onion, and each of those layers of skin represent one of the following emotions of the 16 Dynamics of Suffering: anxiety, depression, jealousy, envy, humiliation/embarrassment, fear, anticipation, worry, sorrow/grief, loss, anger, abuse, rejection, loneliness, hatred, self-loathing, all emotions involved with physical pain.  Let’s start peeling away the layers of skin on that onion. Are you still with me? Okay then, during a relationship, how many of the above emotions have you had to deal with both voluntarily or involuntarily during a relationship?  How many of those emotions have put pressure on your relationship?  How many of those emotions have caused dissension, arguments or resentment?  How many of those emotions either with you OR your partner, or both of you, have been responsible for a break-up or a divorce?  How many of you have experienced a love-hate relationship?

Now, let’s take a look at that whole picture.  Look at all of the human emotions we have to deal with while trying to maintain a well-balanced relationship! That being said, the other dynamics and reality of emotions concerning human relationships are love, sex, pleasure, romance, happiness, health, and fun/excitement.  Let’s call the center of the onion, the positive and essential core of life which embraces: love, sex, pleasure, romance, happiness, health, and fun/excitement.

It’s safe to say we are forced to deal with trying to balance the negative with the positive, some of the 16 Dynamics of Suffering – with the 7 Positive Dynamics of Relationships: love, sex, pleasure, romance, happiness, health, and fun/excitement.

This is a huge problem, people. Suffering on any or every level is a problem. I’m using suffering as the umbrella term to include all the emotional pains.

Suffering appears to be at constant war and conflict with the few delightful emotions we possess.  Consequently, in many relationships, the human condition of “suffering”, for whatever reason(s), outweighs, and wins over the love and happiness features.  It’s sometimes a frightful and disturbing contest of emotions.  It appears in most circumstances that the odds (of emotional suffering) are stacked against us before we embark on a new relationship.

This is just one perspective, my perspective of why it’s difficult to maintain a successful relationship and how the emotions involving “suffering” can be relationship destroyers. I welcome all your opinions.
(to be continued in Part 8)

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